Daughter Of A Narcissistic Mother
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Daughter of a narcissistic mother. A daughter of a narcissistic mother is often fearful anxious and views the world and the inhabitants of it in a negative and threatening light. I am working on the acceptance part of this process at the moment as old thought patterns are hard to break. The mother is trying to create an exact copy of herself in her daughter. As a psychotherapist treating adult daughters of narcissistic mothers i see how her daughter trapped in the role of the good daughter hides her true self behind a mask of faux perfection.
Narcissistic mothers tend to see their daughters both as threats and as annexed to their own egos. These daughters repeat the psychological patterns of childhood caused by the abuse. Daughters of narcissistic mothers often form dysfunctional relationships with men who resemble their narcissistic mothers in some way. A bond made of selfishness and coldness.
I think that living with a narcissistic mother is possibly one of the most horrendous abuses of children because depending where on the narcissistic spectrum our mother is located it can be so subtle that we dont even realise were being abused. Through direction and criticism they try to shape their daughter into a version of themselves or. All children assume that what goes on at their house goes on everywhere and the daughter of a narcissistic mother is no different. Welcome to this website daughters of narcissistic mothers.
Adult daughters of narcissistic mothers have to contend with the multiple cruelties perpetrated by these mothers from hell. I am 33 years old and only discovered that my mother is a narcissist within the last year. This means that you have already identified that something iswas wrong with the way your mother treated you and have shown the courage and determination to search for answers. Rage is often the first reaction of the wounded daughter.
We daughters with narcissistic mothers have a lot of issues which come from having lived this cruel crazy making lifestyle. The main characteristics of this kind of upbringing are control and a lack of empathy. She will usually normalize not just the games her mother plays. Often the narcissistic mother and the budding narcissistic daughter form a dark alliance designed to psychologically immobilize and even decimate the rejected child.
Daughters of narcissistic mothers.